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July 15, 2008

Gender Wars: When Men Don't Marry « Stuff Important to Me »

The big elephant I do not remember anyone else mentioning is this:

All women believe they deserve love and devotion within a marriage…but they don’t think every man does.

It is often said that a 35+ year-old female gets desperate because all of the “good ones” have been taken. I do not see women truly looking at themselves and thinking: “I’m not married because all of the good women were chosen first. I’m a reject. I’m a leftover.”

What, exactly, is a “good one” when it comes to husband, after all?

Obviously, it isn’t the quality of a man’s love and/or devotion, or there wouldn’t be so many men rejected out-of-hand. I wish I had realized this two marriages ago.

I wonder if it has anything to do with money?

Posted by Nathan at 04:35 PM | Comments (2) | TrackBack (0)

I am not one to ask advice on this topic. I don't think that all the good ones are taken, I don't think men deserve less than women in a relationship, and I am the girl who is just fine owning up to her own share of the demise of any relationship.

But I am pretty sure I can say it's not money.

Posted by: Mr Lady at July 15, 2008 07:18 PM

Whether it is money or not probably depends on the person. Not every guy who leaves his wife does so for someone younger and prettier.

But, yeah: it's probably isn't money that matters the most in most cases, because I'm not exactly short of cash.

Rather, the quality of my love and devotion doesn't make up for my other problems. And there probably isn't any "Miss Right" for me.

Posted by: Nathan of Brainfertilizer Fame at July 15, 2008 08:55 PM